stash: reuse cached index entries in --patch temporary index

`git stash -p` prepares the interactive selection by creating a
temporary index at HEAD, switching `GIT_INDEX_FILE` to it, and then
running the `add -p` machinery.

That temporary index was created by running `git read-tree HEAD`.  The
resulting index had no useful cached stat data or fsmonitor-valid bits
from the real index.  When `run_add_p()` refreshed that temporary index
before showing the first prompt, it could end up lstat(2)-ing every
tracked file, even in a repository where `git diff` and `git restore -p`
can use fsmonitor to avoid that work.

Create the temporary index in-process instead.  Use `unpack_trees()` to
reset the real index contents to HEAD while writing the result to the
temporary index path.  For paths whose index entries already match HEAD,
`oneway_merge()` reuses the existing cache entries, preserving their
cached stat data and `CE_FSMONITOR_VALID` state.

This makes the refresh performed by `run_add_p()` behave like the one
used by `git restore -p`: unchanged paths can be skipped via fsmonitor
instead of being scanned again.

In a 206k file repository with `core.fsmonitor` enabled and a one-line
change in one file, time to first prompt dropped from 34.774 seconds to
0.659 seconds. The new perf test file demonstrates similar improvements,
with maen times for without- and with-fsmonitor cases dropping from 6.90
and 6.83 seconds to 0.55 and 0.28 seconds, respectively.

Signed-off-by: Adam Johnson <me@adamj.eu>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>